Contacting your childhood bully

"What if you reached out to the person who bullied you?"

Fun to do

The conversation finally unties old knots in your stomach. Whether they're sorry or not, you did it. That burden you've carried for decades simply falls away.

Someone who did this

De bel van het café klonk scherper dan ik had verwacht toen ik (Fatima, 59, fysiotherapeut) binnenstapte. …

Create an account and become a member

Premium members read a short real-life vignette on every card.

Three first steps

1Write an unsent letter first: what did it do to you, and what do you hope for now?
2Send a short, neutral message via LinkedIn or email — no blame, just your request
3Talk through their response (or silence) with a trusted friend or therapist — closure comes from within

Find a place near you

Enter your town or postcode — we search open data for places matching personal.

More personal ideas

Recording your voice for audiobook

"What if you preserved your voice in an audiobook for later?"

Letter to yourself in 10 years

"What if you wrote a letter to yourself, to be opened in 10 years?"

DNA test for family secrets

"What if you discovered your true family through DNA testing?"

This website uses cookies

We use cookies to improve your experience, personalize content, and analyze traffic. By clicking "Accept all", you agree to our use of cookies. You can also adjust your preferences or find more information in our cookie policy.

Cookie policy•Privacy policy•Terms of use